My 3x3 foundation for difficult conversations

What are some key elements for navigating an emotionally difficult conversation?

When emotions run high and you can’t foresee which direction a conversation may go, it’s good to have some guideposts in place for yourself, so you won’t get off track.

So here’s a simple 3x3 framework my clients have found helpful to prepare and go through it: 3 values, 3 messages, 3 breaths

1. Who do you want to BE in that conversation?

Write down 3 values that you want to express/stick to (i.e honesty, kindness, presence, open-mindedness, directness, curiosity, love).

This will be your place to come from.

2. What are the 3 most important messages you’d like to get across?

Wherever the conversation goes, knowing this will help you get back to what matters most. This will be your place to get to.

3. Right before the discussion + whenever it gets heated and you notice that you’re tense, remind yourself to take 3 deep breaths.

This will be your grounding into the present moment; a pause to help you respond rather than react.

Use this for any difficult conversation, as well as a 1-1 or any other type of meeting you’d like to make more mindful and focused.